Afterward
What do I do now?
I’ve been asking myself that question every day for the last week. I made 30×30 public when I shared it with my 300-some Facebook friends last Friday, and at the time I was desperately hoping that maybe half of them would read it. My goal was 1,000 views by the end of the month and a little feedback from my friends — just enough to reassure myself that I’m not a total hack. 1,000 would be nice, I remember thinking, but how will I get that many?
Less than a week later, the30x30.com has over 800,000 views. I’ll try to get it to at least a million, sooner or later, even if I have to start begging people on the street… 1,000,000 is just too awesome of a number to give up without a fight. So hopefully I’ll make that happen. How? I’m not quite sure yet.
But I’m writing this afterward mostly to tell you what won’t happen. First, this site won’t be monetized. When I started writing 30×30, I thought about trying to get it published, or selling it somehow. But long before I put 30×30 on this site, I decided that it would be totally absurd to charge anyone for my unsolicited, unprofessional advice. I only wanted to write and be read, and this site serves that function quite well. That’s why there are no pictures or flashy design elements, and why there won’t be loud, distracting ads running up and down the site. I’ve designed this to be a quiet place to read and think, and it’ll stay that way.
30×30 will also not become a blog. I wrote it as a very short book, and like the design and layout of the site, it’ll stay that way, too. I’m sure I could create some scheme to turn this into 100×30, or blog once a day about themes in the preceding chapters. But that would just be a ploy to keep your attention, and if you’re half as smart as I think you are, you’ll smell that greed on me like cheap cologne, and whatever respect you had for me and this site will surely wane the longer you stick around. Nope… I don’t want that. This book is finished, for better or for worse. I’ve said what I want to say, for now, and it’s time to get off the stage. I just have to hope that more people will discover 30×30, or that you’ll be inspired to read it again.
One more thing: Thank you. Even a week into this site’s existence, this has been a crazy, enjoyable, validating trip for me. I’ve tried to thank everyone who has commented on the site, shared 30×30 within their social media circles, or contacted me directly. I’m sure I’ve missed quite a few of you, but it wasn’t for lack of trying. I appreciate your feedback, good or bad, and the time you’ve taken to read and share 30×30. That’s a big deal, at least for me, so thanks.
Yours,
Ian Mathias
May 17, 2012
This was great Ian. A lot of these items hit home hard for me with current events going on in my life. I know many others have been touched by this and I really appreciate the fact that finally all of our basic feelings can be put into words. You’ve definitely gained this loyal follwer.
That’s very kind of you. Thanks for reading.
Thank you for putting into words what I think inside my crazy, rambling head. Hard to swallow that I most likely won’t experience my seat on Oprah, or publish a best selling young adult fiction series…. but yes I do have internet access and I’m typing this on my smart phone (which I completely believe aides in making me dumber every day)… so I will embrace my average-ness and find joy in living my “pretty terrific average life”….. thanks Ian.
I bet you’ll do just fine, at least. Good luck out there, and thanks for reading.
Great piece of work. Insightful and honest, even if I don’t agree with it all. You could very well monetize it though in an ebook or kindle form! I wouldn’t hate! All thems that would can suck your balls! Or just do it and give your money to a charity or something. $5.00 louis CK kinda deal would be awesome.
Not a bad idea at all Mark… we’ll see. I think this site will stay just how it is.
Thanks for reading!
I just posted this on Twitter but I’d like to let it here again. I just turned 24 and finished reading this today. Thank you for taking the time to write this, it’s awesome and made me reflect on my life so far.
That’s great… thanks!
Your writing is indicative of a thoughtful, balanced, mature, practical man with a great sense of humor. How many marriage proposals have you received since you posted your work?
That’s very kind of you, thanks. Proposals? Ha… zero, and I’m really ok with that.
You have helped me more than you can imagine. You’re a great man.
Ha, that’s nice of you… but I bet you’re helping yourself just fine. “A writer can do nothing for men more necessary, satisfying, than just simply to reveal to them the infinite possibility of their own souls.” Walt Whitman
Starting my own life myself, this was both disheartening and painfully honest. But it rings true, and was masterfully crafted. Thanks for writing.
Shouldn’t have hurt too much, but thanks… that’s very nice of you to say. Good luck.
Hi, I just want to thank you for doing this. A majority of the points are common sense but it’s nice to read it in a brief, organized and precise matter.
I know we are not suppose to strive for perfection but there was a grammar error in front of me that I’d just like to point out. Whether or not you decide to change it is entirely up to you. I just think it would save certain future reader from a half second of uncertainty about what you were trying to say.
Last paragraph of the afterward: “this is has been a crazy, enjoyable, validating trip for me.”
Thank you again for doing this, maybe we’ll see you again in 10 years with more wisdom. We will see, take it easy.
Embarrassing… fixed. Thanks.
Not only do you have a profound talent for writing, but you took the time during your life thus far to truly analyze the inputs and outputs of human interaction and manage to condense some important lessons into a concise package. Bravo!
Many simply drift through life (I know I did up until a few years ago!) and let the chips fall where they may; but when the chips don’t fall right, they blame the chips for simply obeying gravity. I’m glad that I found myself nodding along with every single one of these lessons and not a single one came as a shock to me. Sure we all have things that we need to work on, but as long as the awareness is there, anything is possible.
And I, not being nearly as gifted as you in writing, have no idea how to end this long-winded thank you attempt. To put it simply, thank you for writing this. Thank you!
That’s very nice of you… really appreciate it.
I find myself reading and rereading these entries and finding them insightful and helpful all over again. Thanks for doing this. I hope you will post more soon.
Sounds like far too much eoymjnent to me! And you know what they say? Too much eoymjnent is not good for a young chap like you. More suffering and anguish! That’s what we need!
Ian,
I just want to say I consider this book one of the best spent half hours of my life so far. Not only enlightning but also a reasurance that my life is going along those tips of yours. I truly hope more people read this and will do my best to let them know it exists. Thanks for the insight on life.
PS: It wolud be very useful if you colud publish this in some e-book format, maybe in amazon. I think there is some sort of free licence for publishing if you are willing to give it for free.
That’s very kind of you Martin. Thanks.
All I can say is: I hope you do a 40×40. I look forward to the day that comes true.
Ian,
Thank you for sharing your insights. From one introvert to another, it’s refreshing to see someone channel passing thoughts and personal introspection into a meticulously well-developed message (and say it aloud).
I’m no critic, but I thought the light, witty treatment paired well with the often weighty subject.
Best wishes in future writing.
Thanks Phil… really appreciate that.
This is by far one of the most enjoyable things I’ve ever read. I wish this had been around when I was 20. It would have made me a better person. But like most 20 year old kids, they wouldn’t get it. Thank you so much for such a great read.
Jaime